"Playmates vs. Soul mate" author unknown
First,
we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul
yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.
Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole.
In order to find your Soulmate you have to know you, first. You must be
willing to listen to that inner voice. Is that voice telling you that
the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could
it be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra
mile for you when no one else will? Oh no! He's too short or too tall,
balding or too hairy, and on and on?
Just too ordinary looking for me!
Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around
her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.
She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not
shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't
be for me! So what if he or she doesn't look like Brad Pitt or Selma
Hayeck! He or she is going to treat you like the jewel that you are. Not
only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never
imagined possible!
In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own
superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly
genuine person with a good heart?
If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of
Playmates out there to occupy your time. But don't spend too much time
playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it
appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful
connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.
Don't let People, Problems & the Pain of your Past Pause your
Present; punish your Person; Prison your Potential & Paralyze your
Progress. I will begin walking boldly into my future and will not allow
others to hold me back...
Remember that GREAT love and GREAT achievement involve GREAT risk.
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"When
is Waiting for An Answer to Prayer God's Will or a Faith
Failure?"
by Victorian
Thornton
If you have gotten the book,
“How to Receive the Mate of Your Dreams”
you already know how to use your faith to receive the mate God has for you. But if you have been believing for a long time and haven’t seen it of manifest yet, it’s time to take a look at what you are doing. Charles Capps made a profound statement saying, “if you are traveling down a path for 20 years and haven’t reached your destination, you may be going in the wrong direction.”
So when is waiting for your answer God’s will or a faith failure?
For one, God has already given us all things that pertain to life and godliness. Everything you need from God has already been provided. So you are
never waiting on God to answer. If you are waiting, you are waiting for other reasons. Each situation is different. But in many cases, your faith just needs to be perfected. If you have doubt or wrong thinking, you may need time to work out these issues before you see it come to pass.
Other times God may need a little time to works things out. After all, he has to work in the lives of all those concerned to bring you two together and it may take a little time. Other times, the enemy causes delays. Satan tries to dwarf the plan of God by causing delays and hindrances to stop the will of God from coming to pass in your life. But no matter what the cause of the delay, there is something you can do about it.
So what can you do about delays in prayer?
If your delay is caused by imperfect faith, here’s what you can do about it.
1. Meditate on the scriptures that cover your promise to build faith.
2. Admit any doubts you might have and go to work on dissolving them.
3. Fast and pray as Jesus recommended in Matthew 17:14-21 to help you recognize and dissolve doubts that might hinder your answer to prayer.
If your delay is caused because time in needed to work out the
details for your prayers to be answered, then this is where the
force of patience is needed. The bible states in Hebrews 10:35-39,
Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense. For you have need of patience, for after you have done the will of god you might receive the promise. For yet a little while and He that shall come will come and will not tarry. For the just shall live by faith; but if any may drawback my soul shall have no pleasure in him.
(KJV)
To keep you settled in this instance, spend time praising and thanking God. Continue in your faith and you will see the manifestation of what you are believing for come to pass.
If your delay is a result of satanic interference, according to Luke 10:19, Jesus gave us authority over the works of the devil. All you need do is speak to the devil in Jesus name and tell him to back off.
How do you determine what is the source of your delay? The most efficient way to get to the root of your delay is simply to ask God to show you the hindrance. He wants you to have what you are believing for more than you want to receive it. If you ask him, He will show you what the problem is.
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"Warning: 3 Devastating Effects of How Marrying the Wrong Person Can Ruin Your Life"
by Victorian Thornton
Marrying the wrong person can have far-reaching, devastating effects on your life. So you must take the necessary precautions when you decide to marry. Besides a life lacking fulfillment and satisfaction, here are the most common effects of marrying the wrong person.
You could put off reaching your destiny or miss it altogether. Marriage is not only the coming together of two people to form a family unit but also the coming together of two destinies. Since God designed a future just for you, he knows the person who is not only perfect for you but also perfect for the destiny he has set in place for you. But by marrying the wrong person, you put your future and destiny in jeopardy.
In my book I talk about someone who married a woman that God told him not to. He didn’t think it was a big deal until later in his life when he recognized the great calling God had for him. When he announced it to his wife to his dismay she wasn’t excited about it. So he endeavored to obey God in spite of his wife’s opposition. As he began his journey in fulfilling his calling, his wife set out to sabotage him. He grew frustrated with his household divided. He suffered greatly and grew more and more unhappy. But what could he do? By this time, he was married many years and had several children. When I saw him, he was devastated believing how much further he would be in his calling if he’d only waited on God to send him a wife. Please let this man’s plight convince you of the importance of marrying the right person.
Another more important reason you should choose to marry the person God has for you is the effect it is having on the person’s life God chose for you. Because you are not there, that person is being impacted too. They are likely to endure struggles and setbacks that they would have never experienced if you had been there. Remember your destinies are aligned and your absence is impacting their life as well.
And last, marrying the wrong person can impact the people you are called to serve. If you are married to the wrong person, you are likely living in the wrong place, doing the wrong thing – out of the will of God – and your choices are impacting the people you are called to serve.
If you aren’t in the place you are suppose to be in; doing what God called you to do; with the person God called you to perform it with then the people you are suppose to serve are not receiving the help they need. Now there will others doing what you should be doing, but you were designed with distinct qualities and talents and set in a certain place to reach a certain people. And those people will suffer the impact of you not being there. Now God will call someone else to do it because he wants to meet the needs of his people but you were his first choice. God made you to do something special in a way that is uniquely yours to serve a certain segment of people. And no one else would be better suited to serve them than you.
In closing, don’t take the decision of whom you marry lightly because doing so could have devastating effects. Marrying the wrong person can send you down a path that may cause you to miss your destiny, negatively impact the person God chose for you, and cause you to be unable to serve those assigned to you.
So stand strong and ask God to send you a mate. Your life, family and calling are at stake. Heeding this warning could spare you years of heart wrenching pain, deep regret and an unfulfilled life.
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"Want to Get
Answers to Prayer Manifested Quickly? Read this."
by Victorian Thornton
If you want to see your answers to prayer manifest quickly, there are some things you can do before you pray that can almost guarantee it.
First and foremost, have the scriptures that cover your promise planted deeply in your spirit man. Make sure your faith is in your heart and not your head. Faith in your head will lead to frustration, but faith in your heart will lead to manifestation.
Second, know who you are in Christ. Knowing your authority as a believer helps you stop any delays in their tracks that Satan might try to throw in your path. Don’t think it strange that testing and temptations will
try to arise to get you off your faith. Expect it and you’ll be better able to handle it when it occurs.
Third, be sensitive to the voice of God so you know what to do and not do as you wait on the manifestation. Your participation may be required in getting your answer manifested, so be sensitive to God’s leading if he needs to direct you.
Fourth, turn away from anyone or anything that try to convince you that you won’t receive what you are believing for. Believe it or not, the enemy will use people closest to you to try and get you off your faith.
Fifth, stay focused on the word of God and faith even while you go through your day. While at work, in the car, in rush hour meditate continually on the scriptures that cover your promise. Continue to thank and praise God for his uncompromising word.
Sixth, deal quickly with any doubt in heart. Doubt of any kind can slow down the manifestation or stop it all together. Make sure you deal with doubt quickly. Matt.13:58 states, he [Jesus] couldn’t do any mighty works because of their unbelief.
Now you are ready to pray the prayer of faith. Do what the bible says in Mark 11: 24.
Mark 11:24
What things soever you desire when you pray, believe that you receive them and you shall have them.
After you have prayed, believed you have received. Then go about demonstrating your faith. Remember faith without works is dead. Speak it, act it and expect it to come to pass, because if you follow these steps it will.
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"What to Do When You Don't SEE Anything happening"
by Victorian Thornton
What do you do when you’ve prayed for your mate and nothing appears to be happening? What do you when nothing seems to have changed?
The truth is there is lots of activity taking place, but it’s happening in a realm where you can’t see it yet.
If you asked God to send your mate and you are exercising strong faith, then the answer is on the way. Because you prayed, God is moving in your mate’s life and His angels have their assignments to cause the situations and circumstances needed to bring it to pass.
But you must understand that you are operating simultaneously in two realms: one you can’t see (the spiritual realm) and one you can see (physical realm). And how you respond to each of these realms will determine if you see your answer or not.
If you need an example of this take a look at Daniel. In Daniel 10:12, he prayed a prayer and nothing appeared to be happening. He fasted and prayed and it didn’t seem to make a difference. He waited and waited and after three long weeks his answer finally arrived.
Daniel 10:12...Then said he unto me, Fear not, Daniel: for FROM THE FIRST DAY that thou didst set thine heart to understand and to chasten thyself before God thy words were heard, and I am come for thy words. But the Prince of the Kingdom of Persia withstood me one and twenty days; but, Michael, one of the chief princes came to help me; and I remained with the kings of Persia.
From Daniel's perspective, it probably looked like he was waiting on God. But what Daniel didn’t know and couldn’t see was while it appeared that nothing was happening in the physical realm, God sent the answer the moment he prayed. Even though Daniel couldn’t see his answer yet, God had already commanded the angel to bring it.
But what if Daniel would have gotten into unbelief and had been tempted to think, "well maybe God doesn't want me to have it this time" or "maybe God wants me to wait a while." He would have been wrong. If he had entertained these evil thoughts, he would have been tempted to let go of his faith and stop believing God. And had he done that, he would have never received his answer.
Just because you may not see your answer yet doesn’t mean God hasn’t done anything. And it certainly doesn’t mean that nothing is happening.
Like Daniel, God sent your answer the moment you prayed. You can be assured of this because the bible says, in Matthew 7:8 for everyone who asks, receives.
What caused the delay to Daniel’s prayer? It wasn’t God. The bible says there were other factors involved that delayed the answer.
So what do you do after you’ve prayed and nothing appears to be happening? You continue to thank and praise God for the answer. If at any point the time seems unreasonably long, you can ask him to show you if there is anything holding it up. If there is something delaying your answer, God will reveal it to you. Remember, God wants to give you your mate more than you want to receive him or her.
If you have been believing for your mate and you feel it is taking longer than usual, I’ll be happy to agree with you that God will show you what is causing the delay. Email me
by clicking here.
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"What to Do
When You are Tempted to Quit"
by Victorian Thornton
As you believe for the return on your mate, there may come a time when you are tempted to quit. If you are feeling this way now, my heart goes out to you because I know how painful that can feel. But I want to let you in on a few secrets that will help you defeat this temptation and come through it.
There are reasons you are feeling this way and it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with an enemy that hates God and wants to harm God by harming his people. I Peter 5:8
Satan, the enemy of God, is attacking you because he knows if you continue in your faith, you will receive your answer. Satan knows and believes God and he knows God keeps his Word. So his only defense is to somehow get you to give up so you won’t ever receive your answer.
Another reason you are being tempted to quit is because the enemy sees activity taking place in your behalf and he is trying to put a stop to it. He’s trying to steal, kill and destroy the happiness and fulfillment God planned for you to have --because if he can make you miserable and unhappy you won’t be a very good testimony for God. Don’t let the devil rob you of your walk of faith. Remember he is defeated and is striking out to hurt what God loves most – YOU.
Another reason I want you to be encouraged is this:
the reason you are under such an attack to quit is because your manifestation may be just around the corner.
Satan attacks in seasons. He’ll come against you when you first hear the word to steal if from your heart. Then, he’ll come back, around the time it’s due to manifest. If he can’t stop you from using your faith to receive from God, he’ll try and stop you for reaching your appointed time. And if he’s successful at making you miss your appointed time, you’ll miss receiving your answer all together.
Don’t let him do it. The bible says in James, 4:7, resist the devil and he will flee from you. God has given you authority over the works of the enemy so it is your job to stop him from harassing you.
Luke 10:19 says,
Behold I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you. (KJV)
So don’t allow him to harass you. Command him in the Name of Jesus to leave you alone!
If you feel tempted to quit and need prayer, please let us pray with you.
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"Are You Doubting You’ll Receive What You Already Have?”
by Victorian Thornton
Do you sometimes have doubts that you’ll ever receive the mate God has for you? Do you often look at others in relationships and wonder why hasn’t it happened for you yet? Well if you suffer from thoughts like these, it’s your ‘stinking thinking’ that is getting in the way of you receiving. If you are guilty of this kind of thinking, the problem lies more in your mindset than in what is actually happening to you. r>
Unknowingly, you are judging your situation from your own limited frame of reference not knowing God has already provided you with a mate. Once you change your thinking from trying to ‘get God to do something’ to ‘receiving what God has already done,’ you’ll get
results. Be forewarned if you entertain doubt, it’ll zap all the power from your faith and you’ll be left with an empty shell of a prayer that won’t get any results. You’ll have a prayer filled with hope that receives nothing from God. You won’t see the answer to your prayer because it’ll lack substance (that which gives it form) and evidence (that which makes it real) to give you the assurance you need to await the manifestation.
Because the substance and evidence you need in prayer will be absent if faith is lacking. Since it is faith that is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. It’s a heart full of faith that turns prayers into reality.
So if you are entertaining doubt, is it any wonder why you’re not receiving what you asked for? Let’s deal with your doubt.
So what is doubt? Doubt is defined as the state of being unsure of something; uncertain about the truth or factuality of the existence of something.
What are you uncertain about?
1. Do you doubt God hears your prayers?
2. Do you doubt the truth that God has already provided you with a mate?
3. Do you doubt the truth that God has someone for you?
If you doubt God hears your prayers, remember the Bible
says:
In I john 5:14, If we ask ANYTHING according to his will, He HEARS us and if we KNOW he hears us; we KNOW we have the petitions we desired of him. How can doubt remain when the word of God plainly declares your prayers are heard and answered?
1John 5:14 -15 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
Next the bible states, Every one that asks receives. Everyone means all people –and that includes you. If you ask, you receive. Mat 7:8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Last, Isaiah 65:24 states, Before you call, He’ll answer and while you are speaking, He will hear. Therefore cast out this fallacy that God didn't hear your prayers from your thinking and believe the Word of God.
Isaiah 65:24 And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while they are yet speaking, I will hear.
If you doubt the truth that God has already provided you with a mate? Consider II Peter 1:3…
According to 2 Peter 1:3, the bible says God has already given you All thing that pertain to life and godliness. ‘All things’ in this verse literally means – all things. A loving mate pertains to life and has already been supplied by your Heavenly Father.2Pe 1:3 According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:
If you doubt the truth that God has someone for you? Consider this…
When God created the first man (Adam), God saw that is was not good for the man to be alone. God even declared it in gen 2:18. So what did God do about it? God went into action and made Adam a wife and brought her to him. God is no respecter of persons. If He supplied a mate for the first man He made to walk the earth, God has supplied one for you--and will bring that person to you when you ask. Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” So don't let doubt stand in your way of receiving the love of your life. Believe God and trust his Word. God can not lie. Trust in that fact.
But what if you have doubts that were not covered here? If you have any doubts that weren’t mentioned above, here is how to dissolve them. Dissolve your doubts by checking them against the validity of the Word of God. Find and meditate on the scripture that’ll overcome your stinking-thinking in that area. Be relentless. If you find yourself faced with a doubt that keeps resurfacing, the bible has an answer.
In Matthew 17:14-21 when the disciples failed to cure a young boy, they later asked Jesus what happened. Jesus answered them saying, it was because of their unbelief. And he told them that, that kind of unbelief only goes out with praying and fasting.Mat 17:16 And I brought him to thy disciples, and they could not cure him.
Mat 17:17 Then Jesus answered and said, O faithless and perverse generation, how long shall I be with you? how long shall I suffer you? bring him hither to me.
Mat 17:18 And Jesus rebuked the devil; and he departed out of him: and the child was cured from that very hour.
Mat 17:19 Then came the disciples to Jesus apart, and said, Why could not we cast him out?
Mat 17:20 And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
Mat 17:21 Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.
So if your doubt isn’t dissolving by meditating on the Word, consider fasting and prayer as the bible suggests. Fasting and prayer must be a powerful tool to remedy this problem, otherwise our Lord Jesus would not have suggested it.
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"How You Can Stop 90% Of Your Disagreements Before They Ruin Your Relationship”
by Victorian ThorntonIf you believing God for the return of your mate, rest assured God has heard your prayer. But when your prayer is answered and your mate has returned, how will you guard against future problems?
The bible says, (Amos 3:3) can two walk together, except they be agreed? Disagreements will occur but will you be able to resolve them? Do you have the skill set in place to resolve issues quickly and amicably?
How will you handle the next time your partner hurts you? Will you allow conflict and disagreements to cause another breakup? Or do you have a strategy in place that can help resolve issues that may arise?
There are many reasons for problems in relationships but you can do your part in eliminating 90% of them by paying attention to how you respond. As the saying goes, ‘it takes two to tango’ and many times your mate is responding to your actions, tone and behavior.
I’m not saying you are the reason for the problems in your relationship, I’m saying you can shorten the time and intensity of the conflict and work out your disagreements just by understanding and recognizing the part you play.
If you take a look at what you are doing in the conflict, you’ll have a greater chance of resolving potential problems before they become massive ones.
Here are a few strategies to remember in handling a conflict with your mate:
Take the initiative
You can sit around figuring out who’s to blame and who should change first, or you can start the ball rolling by taking action regardless of who started it.
Don’t take it personally
The person who is hurting you is doing the best they know how. Understand whenever someone hurts you that the person cannot do anything different toward you than what he or she understands to do. They aren’t personally trying to hurt you, but are responding from their own logic and frame of reference. If you try to not take it personally, it’ll free you to find the solutions needed to resolve the conflict.
Change yourself first
A change in you will lead in a change in him or her. When you change how you are approaching or responding to your partner, your partner will change how they are responding to you. Remember, it's not the event that creates the outcome, but your response to that event.
Have positive Expectations
There is a psychological law that states, human beings react and respond to the attitude and actions expressed by the other in like manner. The manner in which you approach or respond to your partner sets the ‘stage’ for how they’ll respond to you.
If you decide beforehand that a person will be difficult to deal with, you’ll approach him or her in a more or less hostile manner. When you do this, you literally set the stage for them to act upon the role you set for them. So put yourself in a positive frame of mind before communicating with your loved one.
Here are other points to consider.
1. Be willing to really listen to what your partner has to say.
2. Be willing to accept your partner for who he or she is.
3. Try to see the problem from their perspective.
4. Be willing to forgive and be forgiven
5. Be willing to look at what you are doing that is adding to the conflict and resolve it.
6. Be willing to get clarity on the situation and communicate without using emotionally charged words.
7. Change your focus from analyzing the problem to looking for the solution.
8. Most important learn to fight fair. Be willing to stop zinging, blaming and purposely trying to hurt your partner when in a heated discussion.
If you take the time, now, to formulate your own ‘conflict-resolution strategy’ you’ll increase your chances in resolving your differences before they become full-fledge problems. If you need further help check out our resources that are designed to give you insight and help as you believe for the return of your mate.
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