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God's Initial Guidance"
God's Greatest Creation"
"It's Time to Overcome What's Blocking You from Getting Married"
to Receive Confirmations- Discerning Right & Wrong Relationships"
"Tis The Season: Dealing with Holidays When Single"
Incredible Benefits of Praying in the Spirit"
It's Not Working"
"God is Waiting on You"
"Playmates vs. Soul mate"
is Waiting for An Answer to Prayer God's Will or a Faith
"Warning: 3 Devastating Effects of How Marrying the Wrong Person Can Ruin Your Life"
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"Recognizing God’s Initial Guidance"
Once you observed someone new in your life and have asked God to
confirm if the person is from Him, God gets involves in sending
In fact the bulk of the responsibility of getting confirmations lie
with God. It is God's job to confirm if the person is from him or
Therefore, as you watch for confirmations remain in passive state of
prayer and watching.
Let God be in the driver's seat and let your only responsibility be
is to watch and listen. Actually, if the person is from God, signs
will accompany his or her arrival. You won't have to look long and
hard for confirmations if the person is from Him. You won't need to
pursue hard to find out if the person God revealed to you is yours.
Take the position of having God prove to you if the person in your
life is from Him.
Here are only a few examples of how God can speak to you to let you
know if the person in your life is from him or not. This is only an
excerpt in all the ways God speaks.
But remember, however God is speaking to you now, He'll probably use
the same methods to confirm if the person is from Him. God will
guide you based on your present knowledge and your walk with him.
Important: Don't confine God. Don't limit God expecting Him to lead
you in a specific way because you'll risk opening the door for the
enemy. Don't “put out fleeces."
Just ask God to confirm the person and leave it up to Him on how He
wants to do it.
The First Sign: An Exaggerated, Attention-getting Event
Once you have asked God if a particular person is from Him or not,
to get your attention God may exaggerate something about the person
or the situation to get you to notice it. It may be an exaggerated
circumstance that will cause you to look and ponder.
In the Old testament when God first began speaking to Moses about
leading the Children of Israel out of Egypt, first, God captured
Moses attention with the burning bush. The burning bush was an
attention-getting, miraculous sign that first got Moses to look.
After God successfully got Moses attention, then He began to talk to
him about leading the Children of Israel.
Exo 3:2-5 And the angel of the LORD appeared unto him in a flame of
fire out of the midst of a bush: and he looked, and, behold, the
bush burned with fire, and the bush was not consumed. And Moses
said, I will now turn aside, and see this great sight, why the bush
is not burnt. And when the LORD saw that he turned aside to see, God
called unto him out of the midst of the bush, and said, Moses,
Moses. And he said, Here am I.
So the steps God used were to: 1) capture Moses attention. Once
Moses noticed the burning bush and drew near; 2) Then God spoke to
When Jesus was baptized by John the Baptist in the Jordan river, God
created an attention-getting event to confirm that Jesus was the Son
of God. If John doubted Jesus was the Messiah before, he had no
reason to doubt at that moment. In Matt 3:16 shortly after baptizing
Jesus, John saw the heavens opened and saw the Spirit like a dove
descending upon Jesus. As John fixed his eyes on this event, then he
heard God say, "this is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased."
Again, notice what happened. First John saw the spectacular,
attention-getting sign indicated by the heavens opening, then God
Mat 3:16-17 And Jesus, when he was baptized, went up straightway out
of the water: and, lo, the heavens were opened unto him, and he saw
the Spirit of God descending like a dove, and lighting upon him: And
lo a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am
And last Saul who later became Apostle Paul had a similar experience
on his way to Damascus. Saul was headed to Damascus to arrest
Christians but on his way his trip was interrupted by Jesus,
Himself. What did God do?
First Paul experienced a spectacular, attention-getting event when
the light shown around him, then Jesus spoke to him.
Act 9:3-4 And as he journeyed, he came near Damascus: and suddenly
there shined round about him a light from heaven: And he fell to the
earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why
persecutest thou me?
Notice the pattern God used to speak to Moses, John the Baptist and
the Apostle Paul. God got their attention first; then He spoke. Now
I'm not advocating that God will do anything like the above to
confirm your mate but rest assured He will do something that will
capture your attention.
Once God has your attention He will work in other ways to confirm
the person or situation. The bible says, Mar 16:20, God working with
them confirming the Word with signs following. God will confirm His
Word to you but you have to be watching.
Once God grabs your attention, next He'll begin to orchestrate
repetitive events to further get you to take notice. As the Word
teaches in Matt 18:16, by two or three witnesses let every word be
established. God will establish the word He is speaking to you by
sending multiple confirmations. So watch for repetitive events.
Here are a few illustrations of how God used repetitive events to
confirm His will.
The Gospel to the Gentiles
When God wanted Peter to preach to the Gentiles, He gave Peter a
vision three times all having the same message. Act 10:13-17 tells
Joseph: Ruler of Egypt
When God began to speak to Joseph about the plan for his life, He
gave Joseph two separate dreams having the same message that He
would be a ruler. Joseph dreams are found in Gen 37:5-10.
Once God has your attention He will begin to speak to you
repetitively in all the ways He communicates but you have to be
watching. (An in-depth study on many of the ways God speaks is
covered in the new e-book ‘How to Receive Confirmations, Discerning
Right & Wrong Relationships’.)
So however God chooses to speak to you, be sure to record and date
it. Make sure you have at minimum two or three witnesses. Part of
establishing God's Will for your life is being able to have an
indisputable account of the ways and means that God spoke to you to
confirm your mate.
Since your emotions are involved, take every precaution to make sure
the direction you receive from God is established before you allow
the affection and attraction of a budding relationship to cloud your
If you are already in a relationship and need to know if the person
is from God, just say a simple prayer asking God to confirm him or
her and God will honor that prayer. It pleases the Father that His
children want to do His Will, so God will do His part in giving you
the direction you need. All you need to do is commit to watching and
listening for his direction.†
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"Man: God's Greatest Creation"
Have you ever thought about how wonderful a man is?
How God designed him?
How God sees Him?
In Psalms 8:4-6, the Bible gives a majestic description of him. When
God made man I believe it was one of his finest creations to date.
God crowned him with glory and honor and made him to have dominion
of all the works of his hands. God also made sure that he put
everything under the his feet.
Psa 8:4-6 What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of
man, that thou visitest him? For thou hast made him a little lower
than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour. Thou
madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast
put all things under his feet:
Adam, being the first man God made was place in garden overflowing
with everything he would ever need.
God also honored Adam by giving him the job of naming all the
animals on the earth.
The Bible says that God brought every beast and fowl of the air and
whatever Adam chose to call them that was the name that they were
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of
the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to
see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living
creature, that was the name thereof.
After the fall of man and the redemptive work of Christ, man once
again was restored to his original glory.
But sadly men are not receiving the honor they deserve. Instead they
are being used as punch lines for jokes on silly comedy tv shows.
Our men, God's wonderful creation, has been marred by views that are
in direction opposition to God's Word.
For instance, the wrong ideas and teachings we received about how to
treat men from watching tv shows like 'Everybody Loves Raymond,'
'The Cosby Show' and Sex and the City' to name a few are destroying
the real view of man. These shows and others like them tear down the
traditional role of a man as it directly opposes the position God
placed them in.
Also, consider the destructive work that has been assailed against
them as women have been taught by society that we do not need them.
This wrong and misguided advice has caused the breakdown of the
Whether you realize it not being subjected to these kinds of views
can ultimately affect the way you view the roles of men, woman and
marriage especially as God designed them. As a result, many males
and females are unable to walk in the will of God for marriage as
quickly as they’d like because God has to first correct these views
and teachings they wrongly received. Since many of our views are
developed by our environment, society and what we expose ourselves
to, God has to compete with these wrong teachings and has to
straighten us out before He could bless us with the marriage He so
longs to give us.
I have witnessed God having to work with the hearts of minds of His
sons and daughters to get them to a place where they have His idea
of marriage over the worlds.
My co-author and I have put together a condense new ebook sharing
some of the things God shared with us about how to treat a man.
Since God knows how men tick we thought passing this information
along would help to reverse the wrong ideas and teachings we
received about how to treat men.
Because it’s not the things you know you are doing wrong but the
things that you don’t know that can cause the greatest harm.
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"It's Time to Overcome What's Blocking You from Getting Married"
Make this New Year the year you overcome what's blocking you from getting married. Since all the promises of God are in him are yes and amen (2 cor 1:20) and God said it's not good for man to be alone (Gen 2:18); you can be certain that God is in agreement with you in receiving your mate. You may be thinking 'but I have been believing for a long time and it hasn't happened yet, so what do you mean make this the year? If I could, I would have done it by now'.
And this is the purpose for this discussion, to help you see that it could have happened if it wasn't for something blocking it from coming to pass or due to some lack of understanding about how the process works. In this article I hope to provide a little insight into the connection between you, and your spiritual resources so you can get your prayers manifested.
To begin, you must be established in the following four foundational truths. Once you understand the foundational principles for getting anything you want from God, it will make it easier to receive. The four foundational truths you must have settled in your heart include:
1) Knowing God has already provided for your needs;
2) Knowing you have already been given what you asked for; you just need to appropriate it;
3) Knowing that if you don't have the physical manifestation of your answer to prayer then there is a reason for it. And once you determine the reason and resolve it, it should come to pass.
4) Knowing you have to do.
Today, as New Testament believers we have the power of God residing in us to overcome any challenging situation we face. And if we need to hear from God, we have the Spirit of God residing in us to speak to us personally.
This is great news because anytime you need the power of God to change a situation or you need God to speak to you; you don't have to go to another. All you have to do is look to Christ within.
Having Christ in you is like having your own personal generator.
If you've ever been in a storm and your house receives electricity via a power company, you are at the mercy of this company. If the storm has caused your lights to go out, you’ll have to wait until they send someone out to fix it.
But if you have your own generator, you aren't dependent on some outside company. Anytime you need power all you have to do is turn on your generator and you'll have lights and power to cook your food. This is what it's like as a New Testament believer. God has placed in you His anointing (1Jn 2:27), His power (Act 1:8) and His faith (Rom 12:3) to get the things you need.
The first step in utilizing the power of God in your spirit is to make sure the power is on and operating at its optimal level. In Eph 2:20, the Bible says, 'he is able to do exceedingly, abundantly all we ask or think according to the power that works on us'.
So the degree of power you have working in you is what God uses to change things in your life. If you have little power working you may get little or no results. If you have great power working you may have greater results. It's all based on
you. You can conduct a self test to determine how much power or
anointing you have working in you by how much faith is coming out of
If you've ever had to believe God for anything you can probably tell
when you are in faith and when you are not. For this reason, don't
pray or make any kind of confession unless you know you are in
faith. Trying to get your prayers answered when you are in
supposition will only cause frustration and delay. If you check your
heart and you are in worry, doubt, and anxiousness over a situation,
deal with those things before you attempt to 1)pray; 2)act in faith;
or 3)make any kind of confession.
The second step is to ask God what is blocking your prayer from being answered. Many have the mindset that once they ask God for their mate that their work is finished. But it has just begun. You won't get much accomplished if you ask for your mate then go about living your life expecting God to work apart from you.
God's heart is to walk with you daily.
If you are walking in step with Him and if something is blocking your answer to prayer, He will inform you. He will often tell you what it is and give instruction on what to do about it.
And last, another important factor in overcoming the blockages in getting married this year is timing. If you are exhibiting strong faith, walking close to God, and if something is blocking your answer you can get in there to change it. Don't allow the factor of time to be a factor.
If God answers immediately (Matt 7:7), which I believe he does, then simply waiting around for a prayer to be manifested isn't wise.
Now there are some answers that may take a little bit of time to manifest and this is where wisdom and the force of patience are needed. However, my goal is to get you to renew your thinking about simply ‘waiting around’ for something to happen.
So unless God specifically tells you He has you in a waiting pattern; pursue and expect the answer to your prayer to come to pass in a reasonable amount of time.
A reasonable amount of time is when you have come through the test and trials that the enemy has thrown against you to get you to quit. It is a point that you have reached in your spirit man that you know without a doubt God answered your prayer and you have a witness in your sprit that you should have it by now. It is also when the Holy Spirit in your spirit is confirming the same.
In summary, because I believe marriage is the Will of God for your
life and you are simply appropriating something He has already
provided, I believe if you make up mind to work with God to receive
your mate, you can see progress in this area. Therefore as you
endeavor to 1) maintain a strong bible faith; 2) stay close to God
to hear Him when He speaks; and 3) remove the hindrances that may be
blocking the answer from manifesting; I believe you can see
significant changes this New Year. Since each person is different,
seek God about your particular situation. But generally speaking,
applying these principles should help you get on the path of
receiving the mate God has for you.
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to Receive Confirmations - Discerning Right/Wrong Relationships"
Right now you may be believing God for your mate and knowing God
answers prayers immediately, you may be wondering how will you
recognize the person God chose for you.
Or you may be wondering whether a certain person who has
entered your life is from God. There may be strong feelings of
attraction and a desire for a relationship but how can you be sure
if this is the person God chose just for you? How can you be sure
that God has brought you together and if the person you've met is
the one God wants you to ultimately marry and build a life with?
Whether you have prayed and watching for God to send your mate or
you suspect a certain person is the mate God chose for you, the
question is how can you be sure?
Will you base your decision on timing, since the person arrived
because you've been praying? Will you base it on his or her current
spiritual walk with the Lord? Do you base it on the high level of
attraction you feel when you are around the individual?
The answer is… No
No one can know if a person is sent by God unless God confirms the
person as His choice or not.
But what are confirmations?
According to Webster's dictionary a confirmation is additional proof
that something that was believed is correct. It is information that
confirms or verifies or establishes; it proves the truth, validity
or authenticity of something.
God sends confirmations to dispel any doubt that a thing or
situation is His Will. A confirmation is a sign or leading
from the Holy Spirit that affirms and bears witness that what is
taking place is the Will of God for your life.
The Bible teaches that by two or three witnesses let every word
be established because
God knows the risks you face when you walk by faith and He knows how
easy it is to miss Him when He speaks.
Therefore to establish His Will in
your life and settle it in your heart, God sends confirming
The Importance of Getting Confirmations
Besides establishing His Will in your heart there is another
important reason to receive confirmations in whatever you believe
the Lord is telling you to do. It is Important to receive
confirmations because there are many voices out there that can lead
you astray if you listen to them.
There is the voice of reason; the voice of your fears and doubts;
the voice of your emotions and your physical senses; the voice of
family members and friends; and the voice of the enemy whose sole
purpose in life is to lead you astray.
Since God is aware of the other voices out there trying to get you
off course, always, always, always expect the Lord to confirm
whatever He is wanting you to do. Because the dangers of not having
God's Will established in your heart and mind can have devastating
The Dangers of Forgoing Confirmations
There are definite dangers you'll face if you neglect to get
confirmations when you believe a person or situation is from God.
You'll be in a state of constant confusion not knowing if you are in
the Will of God or supposition. Because you aren't established in
your heart, your position will change moment to moment. Daily you'll
battle the kinds of thoughts where one day you will think you are in
the Will of God and the next day you won't. You'll be what James
1:6-8 says, a double minded man unstable in all your ways. And the
bible says a double-minded man receives nothing from the Lord.
Then when you are completely overcome by confusion, your
peace will vanish. The peace of God that's supposed to guard your
heart and mind will dissipate making it even harder to hear from
To make matters worse, if you hadn't taken the time to get your
confirmations, you'll begin to be ruled by your circumstances and
Ruled by Circumstances & Emotions
You'll start looking at circumstances and your emotions for proof as
to whether or not you are in the Will of God.
When things are going well, you'll think the person is from God. But
when things are not going well, you'll think that he or she isn't.
You won't know whether to walk away from the situation or stand your
Because without confirmations that the person in your life is sent
by God, you'll never be sure if the problems you are experiencing
are to test your faith or if God is trying to direct you to run.
You'll be tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine and as a
result you will open the door for the enemy to rob you.
The most important point you must realize when learning to hear from
God is that you cannot look to your physical senses. When it comes
to hearing from God, you cannot go by what your physical eyes, see;
you cannot go by what your physical ears, hear; and you cannot go by
what your heart is telling you.
You will have to become spirit dependant in discerning God's
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It provides more information on obtaining confirmations as well as what it's like to be on the
receiving in of God sending confirmations.
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"Tis The Season ...Dealing with Holidays When
This is the season when every year
you'll see commercials with lots of happy people with smiling, faces
advertising the latest clothes you can get at your local mall; using
the newest gadgets you can get at local shopping center.
Or you'll see actors gathered together around a dinner table
pretending to be a perfect family to make you feel like your life is
And to really play with your heartstrings -- those who are single
desiring to be married and the already married --several times a day
flashing across your tv screen will be the mother of all
commercials. It's the commercial of the handsome guy presenting a
beautiful ring to the excited girl.
If you are in the process of believing for your mate that commercial
alone can upset your mood.
I know because I've been there and if you were like me you may be
tempted to think how horrible your life is because another year has
come and gone and you are still without your mate.
You may be tempted to think how you are missing out on yet another
Christmas and New Year without your mate having to go through it
(Later on I'll tell you what the Lord said when I approached him in
this state. Hopefully it will help you.)
If you're tempted to feel discouraged about your situation after
watching those commercials flash across your tv screen day-in and
day-out (like I did), then the marketing folks behind those
advertisements have done their job.
Their job is to make you feel so inadequate about your life that you
will go out and buy those products with the hopes of becoming as
happy as the people in their commercials. They want you to link the
happy, smiling faces you see in their advertisements with their
products so you can spend all your money hoping to feel better.
But it's all a lie.
Or here's another scenario you might encounter.
You may have successfully maneuvered around the fiery darts of tv
commercials, only to be faced with another situation that comes up
around this time of the year.
The situation I'm referring to is dealing with family members when
you are single. Maneuvering around the one family member that always
wants to know if you are seeing someone special and sometimes even
blatantly asking you 'why aren't you married yet' as if something is
wrong with you.
To avoid looking like a sad sap, (because you’re uncomfortable
telling them that you are believing God to send your mate), you
quickly answer 'no one serious at the moment' or divert the question
altogether making your way to the nearest exit.
And if you've ever been subjected to these kinds of scenarios, it
does not make for a happy Christmas. This time of season should not
be a time of dread because you are single. It should not be a season
when you can't watch tv commercials or try to avoid family members
because you’re unmarried at the moment. This is not what this season
is all about.
The real meaning of this season, the true meaning of Christmas is
not about gadgets and clothes and annoying family members. It's not
about whether you are married or single or the giving or receiving
*It's about THE gift - JESUS CHRIST.
*It's about having God with us. (Mat 1:23)
*And having peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Rom 5:1 )
It's the time of the season to commemorate and celebrate the gift
God sacrificially gave in order to have a family of sons and
daughters born of His Spirit. It's about giving thanks for not only
what Jesus did by dying on the Cross but also about having the
opportunity to walk in a close relationship with our Heavenly
Ultimately it's about knowing Him and being loved by Him.
In fact, do you know the relationship and closeness you develop with
God while on earth has eternal rewards? An excerpt taken from a
teaching entitled, 'Seeing through the eyes of God' by Peter Tan
recounts a visit a church member had while visiting heaven.
A church member made a visit to heaven. On arriving at the great
banquet hall, this Christian saw many tables and chairs. He noticed
that those chairs that were closest to the throne of God were the
most beautiful and sparkling beyond description; whereas, those
furthest from the throne were made of hard wood. The angel told him
that the saints who were closest to God while on earth were given
those special beautiful seats, according to the state of their
spiritual life and intimacy with God when they died. Those were not
that close to God and had led ordinary lives on earth were seated in
So by focusing on what is important about this time of year, by
celebrating the real meaning of Christmas but you’ll also gain
In addition to celebrating why JESUS CHRIST came, another reason to
celebrate the true gift of Christmas is to remember what He's done.
Jesus not only came to restore our relationship with the Father but
He also gave us victory in Christ.
Here is a small list of what He accomplished for us.
1. We are now seated together with Christ in the heavenly places.
2. We have been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the
heavenly places. (Eph. 1:3)
3. We are heirs and joint heirs together with Christ. (Rom. 8: 17)
4. All that Jesus has is ours. (Eph. 1:22)
5. We shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ. (Rom 5:17)
6. And as he is, so are we in this world. (1Jn 4:17)
As you can see, the reason for the season is not what the world
wants us to think Christmas is about. It's not about buying things.
It's not even about us. It is about Him and what He's done for us.
Therefore as you approach the upcoming holiday season don't allow
the world's commercialization of Christmas to make you feel
inadequate. Don't allow those annoying family members to make this
season about your marital status. But make it about what Christ did;
why He came; and what He did for us.
And last, I mentioned earlier the time when I allowed tv commercials
to get me depressed about the state of my life, I ran to the Father
and He communicated two things.
#1) When I thought I should be enjoying the parties and festivities
of the season, God said “I wasn't missing anything.”
And #2) Because I had imagined that my mate’s life was perfect and
he was having the time of his life without me, God showed me
otherwise. He gave me a short vision of what my mate was doing apart
from me. In the vision, I saw him in the midst of family and
friends. I saw people all around. But God showed me in the midst of
all those people, this person was terribly lonely without me. God
revealed to me that only He can satisfy the longing soul and He
called us to be each other's answer.
So take comfort in knowing that wherever your mate is this holiday
season that full satisfaction of their soul cannot take place until
you are at their side.
Therefore, as you celebrate this time of the year, put your
attention on the true meaning of Christmas by focusing on the Father
and what He has done then afterwards pray for your mate that God
would cause satisfaction to come into his or her life by bringing
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"The Incredible Benefits of Praying in the Spirit Victoria Thornton
Have you ever been believing for your mate for so long without adequate results that you know something is wrong but you just can't figure out what it is? Or you know who your mate is and you are trusting God to bring the other person around yet that person seems not to change? Or you are in strong faith but days turn into weeks without much changing.
How do you handle a situation like this? Do you go on hoping something will change? Or do you go through your list of the possible reasons (i.e. doubt, unbelief, lack of faith, interference from the enemy) hoping you hit on what could be the hindrance? This hit-or-miss method can be okay but there is a better way to resolve it .
What if there was a way you could know for sure what was going on in
your situation. What if you could find out exactly what the problem
and solution to why you aren't seeing results? Or, what if you could
simply ask the Lord, “where am I missing it” and He tells you. Well,
True to God's character and nature, He has once again already
provided the solution to this problem. In I Corinthians 2:12, God
gave us His Spirit that we might know the things that He has freely
So God in His wisdom has provided a way to help us with our problems
and He's done it with the gift of being baptized in the Spirit.
There are many benefits of this perfect gift but we will cover four
that are most helpful while believing for a mate.
01 Get Real-time Answers
God has once again met a need way before we knew we had a problem.
God has already provided a way for you to get real-time answers from
Him about your particular situation. And He has done it through the
baptism of the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongues.
Speaking in tongues, also referred to as praying in the spirit, is
an awesome resource when you need to hear from God. It can be used
in your private prayer time. Praying in the spirit has great
benefits especially if you are ever going through a difficult time
and you need answers from God. As you are speaking in tongues, the
Holyspirit in you is praying for you to the Father concerning your
A great thing about having the Holyspirit pray is He knows all about
your situation and can pray a more effective prayer than you ever
Have you ever experienced something and you didn't know how to pray
in your logical mind because you couldn't see all the extenuating
circumstances? Well the Holy Spirit sees all; knows all and knows
just exactly what to pray to see that situation resolved.
Romans 8:26 Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we
know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself
maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.
02 Tap Into The Wisdom Of God
Another benefit of speaking in tongues is that you can tap into the
wisdom of God and the mind of Christ. Knowing what you think about a
situation is one thing but knowing what the Lord thinks is something
God who created the universe; who knows the present, past and
future; who knows all about you because He created you, certainly
knows how to help you solve your problems and give you the wisdom
and help you need.
So as you pray in the spirit, according to the I Corinthians 2:10,
your spirit is searching the deep things of God to find the insight
and wisdom you need to get the victory in your situation. What an
awesome blessing! What an awesome God!
03 Recharge Your faith
A third benefit of praying in the spirit is it helps in recharging
your faith. Sometimes if you've been believing for a long time and
haven't seen any results you can become weak in faith. Well praying
in the spirit can strengthen your faith to make it to the end.
Jude 1:20 But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy
faith, praying in the Holy Ghost,
04 Pray Effectively for Others
And last praying in the spirit is a great benefit when praying for
another. God knows exactly
what that person needs and how to pray for them.
As you yield to the Holy Ghost to pray in the spirit for this
person, you are praying perfect prayers for them. Just as God knows
everything about you, God knows everything about this person and can
get to the root of the problem quicker and more efficiently than you
ever could praying with your logical mind.
So as you pray in the spirit, allowing the Holy Spirit to intercede
for you, He bypasses the mind so you don't know what is being
prayed. But you can ask God for the interpretation. Many times the
interpretation of what you were praying will give you insight about
1Co 14:13 - 14 Wherefore let him that speaketh in an unknown tongue
pray that he may interpret. For if I pray in an unknown tongue, my
spirit prayeth, but my understanding is unfruitful.
Therefore, the benefits of praying in the spirit and getting the
01 Getting real-time answers from God about your situation.
02 Tapping into the wisdom of God; getting God's mind on the subject
03 Recharging your faith after it has grown weak
04 Praying more efficiently for others by allowing the HolySpirit to
In closing, if you have not received the gift of being baptized in
the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues, you can
receive it now.
Just like any other gift received from God, it must be received by
faith. And you receive the baptism of the Holy Ghost the same way
you received salvation – with childlike faith by believing it in
your heart and confessing it with your mouth.
Rom 10:9-10, That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord
Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him
from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth
unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto
To see results, try not to just recite the following prayer, but
pray it from your heart and really mean it.
Heavenly Father, I thank you that I am a born again child of God. I
thank you that I am saved and washed in your blood. Father your Word
says in Mark 11:24, ‘what things soever I desire when I pray to
believe that i received them and I shall have them’. Father, right
now I desire to be filled with the Holy Spirit with the evidence of
speaking in tongues. Your Word also states that if I doubt not in my
heart, but shall believe that those things which I say shall come to
pass; I shall have whatsoever I say.
Therefore, Father, I believe in my heart and I say with my mouth, ‘I
receive the Holy Spirit. I believe I am now filled with the Holy
Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues. I thank you Father
for this gift and I can now speak with other tongues as your Spirit
gives the utterance.
If you've prayed that prayer, right now open your mouth and begin to
speak expecting the Holy Spirit to give you the words. It may just
be a few syllables but continue with it. As you pray in this
language you will receive the benefits discussed earlier. †
* * * TESTIMONY * * *
PRAISE THE LORD - A member prayed the prayer above and the Lord
baptized her with the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in
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"Why It's Not Working"
It’s God's will that you receive His best and not be satisfied with the enemy’s second best. When it comes to the promises of God there is too much doubt, too much unbelief and too much fear.
When God has given you something or when you read in the Word where God has given you a promise, like receiving a mate, --just because God has given it --does not mean it automatically will come to pass. Receiving the promises of God will not happen without your intervention; your conscious choice, decision and intention. Therefore in order to experience God’s best, your participation is required.
Once you understand that you must participate in receiving the Will of God for your life, the next point you must understand is you must have faith in the Word of God –whatever He has spoken to you in the Word [logos] or whatever He has spoken to you in your spirit [rhema].
Many are fooled into thinking they are exercising faith or operating in faith but they are not. Because they’ve seen or heard how faith ought to work they think they know what faith is. But they fail to understand the true essence of faith. They are what Romans 10:2 says, ‘they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge’. There are believers who are living like unbelievers. There are a lot of believers who have unbelief in their hearts and as a result, God cannot work in their lives. God cannot heal them, God cannot prosper them, and God cannot bring them the mate He has for them.
So to receive the promises of God, make sure your faith is working at the optimal level. And the way you do it is to get rid of all doubt and unbelief.
For your faith to work make sure you have completely eradicated all doubt and all unbelief from your heart. Doubt and unbelief will stop anyone anywhere from experiencing the works of God. Jesus could do no any mighty work because of their unbelief. The disciples could not cast out the demon because of their unbelief. The children of Israel could not enter into the promise land because of their unbelief. And if you harbor doubt and unbelief in your heart, you won’t be able to accomplish much either.
Even if you believe for a time; then get into doubt, you still will never see the manifestation of your faith. It’s not the believing part that is the problem; it’s the believing while entertaining doubt that is the problem. Because entertaining doubt will cancel everything God wants to do. But praise God, Jesus already has given us the solution.
Before we talk about the remedy let’s look at some symptoms.
One of the main symptoms of doubt is wavering. How much doubt does it take to cancel what you are believing for? All it takes is just a few seconds of doubt and you are back where you started. Many believers think it takes one huge, big doubt to cancel their faith. Or they think if they let doubt linger for days it would cancel their faith. Not at all, all it takes is just a few microseconds of doubt to destroy your faith-- and that’s it—you’ll have to begin again.
And it is for this reason why so many people are hardly making progress; why they are hardly moving forward, going back and forth; in and out of faith wondering why things are not working. This is the reason why you could be believing for your mate and years could pass without seeing anything change.
Another symptom of doubt is how you respond to a crisis. Ninety-five percent of Christians fall into doubt the moment they hit a difficulty. David said in Psalms 116:10, ‘ I believed, therefore have I spoken: I was greatly afflicted’. There is some difficulty when exercising faith because anytime you are believing God for anything, n will fight you tooth and nail for every ground you try to take. Abraham, Moses, David, Joshua, Gideon, the disciples, the Apostle Paul, just to name a few all experienced difficulty in their walk of faith. And so will you. And your response to difficulty and the challenges that occur when believing for your mate will determine if you win or lose; be a success or failure.
So how do you eradicate doubt from your heart? When the disciples asked Jesus why they could not cast out the demon, what did our Lord and Savior say? He said it was because of their unbelief. Now what did Jesus say would cure unbelief? Let’s look at Matthew 17:19-21. He said the kind of unbelief they were experiencing would not go out by crying and complaining or getting other people to pray but Jesus said this kind of unbelief would go out by praying and fasting.
Therefore if things aren’t moving forward; if things aren’t working out; if you are not seeing the kind of changes you would like to see; check to see if you are harboring doubt. And if you are experiencing any kind of doubt --big or small -- do what Jesus said to do. Eradicate doubt from your heart by going into fasting and praying.
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"God is Waiting on You"
Have you ever gone to God and told him about your situation just to
hear silence when you expected His help? Have you ever poured your
heart out to God and afterwards gotten mad at Him because nothing
seemed to change? There was a reason for His silence.
The reason God became silent when you did these things was because,
other than console you and lead you back to His Word, he could not
do much else. You probably didn't receive an answer when you acted
like that for one or two reasons:
1) You probably were not in faith and
2) You were in a mental state of worry, desperation, fear and doubt.
Since you receive through faith, His hands were tied when you
approached him in doubt and desperation. It's not that God does not
care about you, He does. He just cannot do anything about your
situation apart from faith. In a situation like this, God is waiting
on you to believe his Word and approach him in faith.
Heb 11:6, But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he
that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a
rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
God Already Provided Your Answer
Many people are waiting on God to do something about their
circumstances. But the truth is, God is waiting on them. Why?
Everything you'll ever need has been provided in the plan of God for
your life and that includes a happy marriage. When you accepted
Christ as your savior, you received the finished work of God.
Anything you need to live out the plan God has for you is covered.
Any answer or wisdom you need to turn your situation around is
already in the mind of God awaiting your request. He already has
your answer. But you take hold of it; you manifest it through faith.
Habakkuk 2:4 states, ...but the just shall live by his faith. Please
hear and understand this very important truth, that God performs in
accordance with your faith.
Eph 3:20 states, now unto him that is able to do exceeding
abundantly above all that we ask or think, ACCORDING TO THE POWER
THAT WORKETH IN US.
God Won’t Work Independent Of Man
In the earth God will not work independent of man. In your own life,
God will not work independent of you. Especially for New Testament
saints, it is not God wielding his power apart from us to accomplish
His will for our lives but God using His power within us.
Since the beginning of time, God has always used man to move upon
the earth. For instance, when God parted the Red sea, He had the
power to perform it without Moses but instead commanded Moses and
the people of Israel to go forward. God required the children of
Israel to walk by faith.
If you read the account in Exodus 14: 13-16, you’ll notice Moses was
trying to calm the people by telling them to fear not because they
were about to see the salvation of the Lord. Yet as Moses was
encouraging the people to trust in God, God asked Moses a strange
question. God asked Moses why was he crying out to him? Instead, God
instructed Moses to tell them to go forward. Even though it was
God’s power that was going to part the Red Sea, God did nothing
until the children of Israel walked toward the water.
God could have parted the Red Sea before they approached it but God
was waiting on them to exercise faith. Once they approached the
water by faith, God parted it.
There are many examples in the Bible where God performed his mighty
works after He commanded his people to step out in faith.
In the New Testament Our Lord Jesus often told many that they
received by their own faith. Many times He told them, “thy faith had
made thee whole.” This confirms a very important fact that God does
not work in your life without your cooperation and He does not work
apart from your faith.
For example, in Matthew 9:22 Jesus told the woman with the issue of
blood, her faith made her whole.
When two blind men approached Jesus to receive their sight, Jesus
asked them if they believed he was able to perform it; when they
said yes he answered, “according to your faith be it unto you”.
And whatever you need at this very moment, it will be done to you
according to your faith. You must understand that God takes his cues
from you. It is not up to God if you receive your mate, it is up to
you. God will encourage you, prompt you to believe for your mate;
flood your heart with a strong desire for marriage; even provoke you
to jealousy by seeing others marry. But until you release an
uncompromising, persistent faith, it will not happen.
And here is the good news. Because of the finished work of Christ
you are not asking God to give you something you currently do not
have; but simply receiving something which God has already been
provided. This is good news because it’s easier to believe you
already have something and using faith to manifest it, than to
strive to get something you feel you presently don't have.
Once you make this paradigm shift and establish this in your heart
that you already have what you are believing for --you won’t have
any trouble receiving anything from God.
Hopefully the accounts presented above have reminded you of the
truth that God performs in accordance with your faith. With regard
to believing for your mate, it is your faith that God will work
through to bring him or her into your life. If you stop believing,
God has nothing to work with. Part two will hopefully provide
insight into the spiritual and physical realm to make it easier to
believe you have something you can’t see.†
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"Playmates vs. Soul mate" author unknown
we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul
yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.
Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole.
In order to find your Soulmate you have to know you, first. You must be
willing to listen to that inner voice. Is that voice telling you that
the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could
it be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra
mile for you when no one else will? Oh no! He's too short or too tall,
balding or too hairy, and on and on?
Just too ordinary looking for me!
Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around
her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.
She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not
shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't
be for me! So what if he or she doesn't look like Brad Pitt or Selma
Hayeck! He or she is going to treat you like the jewel that you are. Not
only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never
In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own
superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly
genuine person with a good heart?
If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of
Playmates out there to occupy your time. But don't spend too much time
playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it
appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful
connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.
Don't let People, Problems & the Pain of your Past Pause your
Present; punish your Person; Prison your Potential & Paralyze your
Progress. I will begin walking boldly into my future and will not allow
others to hold me back...
Remember that GREAT love and GREAT achievement involve GREAT risk.
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is Waiting for An Answer to Prayer God's Will or a Faith
If you have gotten the book,
“How to Receive the Mate of Your Dreams”
you already know how to use your faith to receive the mate God has for you. But if you have been believing for a long time and haven’t seen it of manifest yet, it’s time to take a look at what you are doing. Charles Capps made a profound statement saying, “if you are traveling down a path for 20 years and haven’t reached your destination, you may be going in the wrong direction.”
So when is waiting for your answer God’s will or a faith failure?
For one, God has already given us all things that pertain to life and godliness. Everything you need from God has already been provided. So you are
never waiting on God to answer. If you are waiting, you are waiting for other reasons. Each situation is different. But in many cases, your faith just needs to be perfected. If you have doubt or wrong thinking, you may need time to work out these issues before you see it come to pass.
Other times God may need a little time to works things out. After all, he has to work in the lives of all those concerned to bring you two together and it may take a little time. Other times, the enemy causes delays. Satan tries to dwarf the plan of God by causing delays and hindrances to stop the will of God from coming to pass in your life. But no matter what the cause of the delay, there is something you can do about it.
So what can you do about delays in prayer?
If your delay is caused by imperfect faith, here’s what you can do about it.
1. Meditate on the scriptures that cover your promise to build faith.
2. Admit any doubts you might have and go to work on dissolving them.
3. Fast and pray as Jesus recommended in Matthew 17:14-21 to help you recognize and dissolve doubts that might hinder your answer to prayer.
If your delay is caused because time in needed to work out the
details for your prayers to be answered, then this is where the
force of patience is needed. The bible states in Hebrews 10:35-39,
Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense. For you have need of patience, for after you have done the will of god you might receive the promise. For yet a little while and He that shall come will come and will not tarry. For the just shall live by faith; but if any may drawback my soul shall have no pleasure in him.
To keep you settled in this instance, spend time praising and thanking God. Continue in your faith and you will see the manifestation of what you are believing for come to pass.
If your delay is a result of satanic interference, according to Luke 10:19, Jesus gave us authority over the works of the devil. All you need do is speak to the devil in Jesus name and tell him to back off.
How do you determine what is the source of your delay? The most efficient way to get to the root of your delay is simply to ask God to show you the hindrance. He wants you to have what you are believing for more than you want to receive it. If you ask him, He will show you what the problem is.
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"Warning: 3 Devastating Effects of How Marrying the Wrong Person Can Ruin Your Life"
by Victorian Thornton
Marrying the wrong person can have far-reaching, devastating effects on your life. So you must take the necessary precautions when you decide to marry. Besides a life lacking fulfillment and satisfaction, here are the most common effects of marrying the wrong person.
You could put off reaching your destiny or miss it altogether. Marriage is not only the coming together of two people to form a family unit but also the coming together of two destinies. Since God designed a future just for you, he knows the person who is not only perfect for you but also perfect for the destiny he has set in place for you. But by marrying the wrong person, you put your future and destiny in jeopardy.
In my book I talk about someone who married a woman that God told him not to. He didn’t think it was a big deal until later in his life when he recognized the great calling God had for him. When he announced it to his wife to his dismay she wasn’t excited about it. So he endeavored to obey God in spite of his wife’s opposition. As he began his journey in fulfilling his calling, his wife set out to sabotage him. He grew frustrated with his household divided. He suffered greatly and grew more and more unhappy. But what could he do? By this time, he was married many years and had several children. When I saw him, he was devastated believing how much further he would be in his calling if he’d only waited on God to send him a wife. Please let this man’s plight convince you of the importance of marrying the right person.
Another more important reason you should choose to marry the person God has for you is the effect it is having on the person’s life God chose for you. Because you are not there, that person is being impacted too. They are likely to endure struggles and setbacks that they would have never experienced if you had been there. Remember your destinies are aligned and your absence is impacting their life as well.
And last, marrying the wrong person can impact the people you are called to serve. If you are married to the wrong person, you are likely living in the wrong place, doing the wrong thing – out of the will of God – and your choices are impacting the people you are called to serve.
If you aren’t in the place you are suppose to be in; doing what God called you to do; with the person God called you to perform it with then the people you are suppose to serve are not receiving the help they need. Now there will others doing what you should be doing, but you were designed with distinct qualities and talents and set in a certain place to reach a certain people. And those people will suffer the impact of you not being there. Now God will call someone else to do it because he wants to meet the needs of his people but you were his first choice. God made you to do something special in a way that is uniquely yours to serve a certain segment of people. And no one else would be better suited to serve them than you.
In closing, don’t take the decision of whom you marry lightly because doing so could have devastating effects. Marrying the wrong person can send you down a path that may cause you to miss your destiny, negatively impact the person God chose for you, and cause you to be unable to serve those assigned to you.
So stand strong and ask God to send you a mate. Your life, family and calling are at stake. Heeding this warning could spare you years of heart wrenching pain, deep regret and an unfulfilled life.
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"Want to Get
Answers to Prayer Manifested Quickly? Read this."
by Victorian Thornton
If you want to see your answers to prayer manifest quickly, there are some things you can do before you pray that can almost guarantee it.
First and foremost, have the scriptures that cover your promise planted deeply in your spirit man. Make sure your faith is in your heart and not your head. Faith in your head will lead to frustration, but faith in your heart will lead to manifestation.
Second, know who you are in Christ. Knowing your authority as a believer helps you stop any delays in their tracks that Satan might try to throw in your path. Don’t think it strange that testing and temptations will
try to arise to get you off your faith. Expect it and you’ll be better able to handle it when it occurs.
Third, be sensitive to the voice of God so you know what to do and not do as you wait on the manifestation. Your participation may be required in getting your answer manifested, so be sensitive to God’s leading if he needs to direct you.
Fourth, turn away from anyone or anything that try to convince you that you won’t receive what you are believing for. Believe it or not, the enemy will use people closest to you to try and get you off your faith.
Fifth, stay focused on the word of God and faith even while you go through your day. While at work, in the car, in rush hour meditate continually on the scriptures that cover your promise. Continue to thank and praise God for his uncompromising word.
Sixth, deal quickly with any doubt in heart. Doubt of any kind can slow down the manifestation or stop it all together. Make sure you deal with doubt quickly. Matt.13:58 states, he [Jesus] couldn’t do any mighty works because of their unbelief.
Now you are ready to pray the prayer of faith. Do what the bible says in Mark 11: 24.
What things soever you desire when you pray, believe that you receive them and you shall have them.
After you have prayed, believed you have received. Then go about demonstrating your faith. Remember faith without works is dead. Speak it, act it and expect it to come to pass, because if you follow these steps it will.
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"What to Do When You Don't SEE Anything happening"
by Victorian Thornton
What do you do when you’ve prayed for your mate and nothing appears to be happening? What do you when nothing seems to have changed?
The truth is there is lots of activity taking place, but it’s happening in a realm where you can’t see it yet.
If you asked God to send your mate and you are exercising strong faith, then the answer is on the way. Because you prayed, God is moving in your mate’s life and His angels have their assignments to cause the situations and circumstances needed to bring it to pass.
But you must understand that you are operating simultaneously in two realms: one you can’t see (the spiritual realm) and one you can see (physical realm). And how you respond to each of these realms will determine if you see your answer or not.
If you need an example of this take a look at Daniel. In Daniel 10:12, he prayed a prayer and nothing appeared to be happening. He fasted and prayed and it didn’t seem to make a difference. He waited and waited and after three long weeks his answer finally arrived.
Daniel 10:12...Then said he unto me, Fear not, Daniel: for FROM THE FIRST DAY that thou didst set thine heart to understand and to chasten thyself before God thy words were heard, and I am come for thy words. But the Prince of the Kingdom of Persia withstood me one and twenty days; but, Michael, one of the chief princes came to help me; and I remained with the kings of Persia.
From Daniel's perspective, it probably looked like he was waiting on God. But what Daniel didn’t know and couldn’t see was while it appeared that nothing was happening in the physical realm, God sent the answer the moment he prayed. Even though Daniel couldn’t see his answer yet, God had already commanded the angel to bring it.
But what if Daniel would have gotten into unbelief and had been tempted to think, "well maybe God doesn't want me to have it this time" or "maybe God wants me to wait a while." He would have been wrong. If he had entertained these evil thoughts, he would have been tempted to let go of his faith and stop believing God. And had he done that, he would have never received his answer.
Just because you may not see your answer yet doesn’t mean God hasn’t done anything. And it certainly doesn’t mean that nothing is happening.
Like Daniel, God sent your answer the moment you prayed. You can be assured of this because the bible says, in Matthew 7:8 for everyone who asks, receives.
What caused the delay to Daniel’s prayer? It wasn’t God. The bible says there were other factors involved that delayed the answer.
So what do you do after you’ve prayed and nothing appears to be happening? You continue to thank and praise God for the answer. If at any point the time seems unreasonably long, you can ask him to show you if there is anything holding it up. If there is something delaying your answer, God will reveal it to you. Remember, God wants to give you your mate more than you want to receive him or her.
If you have been believing for your mate and you feel it is taking longer than usual, I’ll be happy to agree with you that God will show you what is causing the delay. Email me
by clicking here.
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"What to Do
When You are Tempted to Quit"
by Victorian Thornton
As you believe for the return on your mate, there may come a time when you are tempted to quit. If you are feeling this way now, my heart goes out to you because I know how painful that can feel. But I want to let you in on a few secrets that will help you defeat this temptation and come through it.
There are reasons you are feeling this way and it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with an enemy that hates God and wants to harm God by harming his people. I Peter 5:8
Satan, the enemy of God, is attacking you because he knows if you continue in your faith, you will receive your answer. Satan knows and believes God and he knows God keeps his Word. So his only defense is to somehow get you to give up so you won’t ever receive your answer.
Another reason you are being tempted to quit is because the enemy sees activity taking place in your behalf and he is trying to put a stop to it. He’s trying to steal, kill and destroy the happiness and fulfillment God planned for you to have --because if he can make you miserable and unhappy you won’t be a very good testimony for God. Don’t let the devil rob you of your walk of faith. Remember he is defeated and is striking out to hurt what God loves most – YOU.
Another reason I want you to be encouraged is this:
the reason you are under such an attack to quit is because your manifestation may be just around the corner.
Satan attacks in seasons. He’ll come against you when you first hear the word to steal if from your heart. Then, he’ll come back, around the time it’s due to manifest. If he can’t stop you from using your faith to receive from God, he’ll try and stop you for reaching your appointed time. And if he’s successful at making you miss your appointed time, you’ll miss receiving your answer all together.
Don’t let him do it. The bible says in James, 4:7, resist the devil and he will flee from you. God has given you authority over the works of the enemy so it is your job to stop him from harassing you.
Luke 10:19 says,
Behold I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you. (KJV)
So don’t allow him to harass you. Command him in the Name of Jesus to leave you alone!
If you feel tempted to quit and need prayer, please let us pray with you.
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"Are You Doubting You’ll Receive What You Already Have?”
by Victorian Thornton
Do you sometimes have doubts that you’ll ever receive the mate God has for you? Do you often look at others in relationships and wonder why hasn’t it happened for you yet? Well if you suffer from thoughts like these, it’s your ‘stinking thinking’ that is getting in the way of you receiving. If you are guilty of this kind of thinking, the problem lies more in your mindset than in what is actually happening to you. r>
Unknowingly, you are judging your situation from your own limited frame of reference not knowing God has already provided you with a mate. Once you change your thinking from trying to ‘get God to do something’ to ‘receiving what God has already done,’ you’ll get
results. Be forewarned if you entertain doubt, it’ll zap all the power from your faith and you’ll be left with an empty shell of a prayer that won’t get any results. You’ll have a prayer filled with hope that receives nothing from God. You won’t see the answer to your prayer because it’ll lack substance (that which gives it form) and evidence (that which makes it real) to give you the assurance you need to await the manifestation.
Because the substance and evidence you need in prayer will be absent if faith is lacking. Since it is faith that is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. It’s a heart full of faith that turns prayers into reality.
So if you are entertaining doubt, is it any wonder why you’re not receiving what you asked for? Let’s deal with your doubt.
So what is doubt? Doubt is defined as the state of being unsure of something; uncertain about the truth or factuality of the existence of something.
What are you uncertain about?
1. Do you doubt God hears your prayers?
2. Do you doubt the truth that God has already provided you with a mate?
3. Do you doubt the truth that God has someone for you?
If you doubt God hears your prayers, remember the Bible
In I john 5:14, If we ask ANYTHING according to his will, He HEARS us and if we KNOW he hears us; we KNOW we have the petitions we desired of him. How can doubt remain when the word of God plainly declares your prayers are heard and answered?
1John 5:14 -15 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
Next the bible states, Every one that asks receives. Everyone means all people –and that includes you. If you ask, you receive. Mat 7:8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Last, Isaiah 65:24 states, Before you call, He’ll answer and while you are speaking, He will hear. Therefore cast out this fallacy that God didn't hear your prayers from your thinking and believe the Word of God.
Isaiah 65:24 And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while they are yet speaking, I will hear.
If you doubt the truth that God has already provided you with a mate? Consider II Peter 1:3…
According to 2 Peter 1:3, the bible says God has already given you All thing that pertain to life and godliness. ‘All things’ in this verse literally means – all things. A loving mate pertains to life and has already been supplied by your Heavenly Father.2Pe 1:3 According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:
If you doubt the truth that God has someone for you? Consider this…
When God created the first man (Adam), God saw that is was not good for the man to be alone. God even declared it in gen 2:18. So what did God do about it? God went into action and made Adam a wife and brought her to him. God is no respecter of persons. If He supplied a mate for the first man He made to walk the earth, God has supplied one for you--and will bring that person to you when you ask. Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” So don't let doubt stand in your way of receiving the love of your life. Believe God and trust his Word. God can not lie. Trust in that fact.
But what if you have doubts that were not covered here? If you have any doubts that weren’t mentioned above, here is how to dissolve them. Dissolve your doubts by checking them against the validity of the Word of God. Find and meditate on the scripture that’ll overcome your stinking-thinking in that area. Be relentless. If you find yourself faced with a doubt that keeps resurfacing, the bible has an answer.
In Matthew 17:14-21 when the disciples failed to cure a young boy, they later asked Jesus what happened. Jesus answered them saying, it was because of their unbelief. And he told them that, that kind of unbelief only goes out with praying and fasting.Mat 17:16 And I brought him to thy disciples, and they could not cure him.
Mat 17:17 Then Jesus answered and said, O faithless and perverse generation, how long shall I be with you? how long shall I suffer you? bring him hither to me.
Mat 17:18 And Jesus rebuked the devil; and he departed out of him: and the child was cured from that very hour.
Mat 17:19 Then came the disciples to Jesus apart, and said, Why could not we cast him out?
Mat 17:20 And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
Mat 17:21 Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.
So if your doubt isn’t dissolving by meditating on the Word, consider fasting and prayer as the bible suggests. Fasting and prayer must be a powerful tool to remedy this problem, otherwise our Lord Jesus would not have suggested it.
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"How You Can Stop 90% Of Your Disagreements Before They Ruin Your Relationship”
by Victorian Thornton
If you believing God for the return of your mate, rest assured God has heard your prayer. But when your prayer is answered and your mate has returned, how will you guard against future problems?
The bible says, (Amos 3:3) can two walk together, except they be agreed? Disagreements will occur but will you be able to resolve them? Do you have the skill set in place to resolve issues quickly and amicably?
How will you handle the next time your partner hurts you? Will you allow conflict and disagreements to cause another breakup? Or do you have a strategy in place that can help resolve issues that may arise?
There are many reasons for problems in relationships but you can do your part in eliminating 90% of them by paying attention to how you respond. As the saying goes, ‘it takes two to tango’ and many times your mate is responding to your actions, tone and behavior.
I’m not saying you are the reason for the problems in your relationship, I’m saying you can shorten the time and intensity of the conflict and work out your disagreements just by understanding and recognizing the part you play.
If you take a look at what you are doing in the conflict, you’ll have a greater chance of resolving potential problems before they become massive ones.
Here are a few strategies to remember in handling a conflict with your mate:
Take the initiative
You can sit around figuring out who’s to blame and who should change first, or you can start the ball rolling by taking action regardless of who started it.
Don’t take it personally
The person who is hurting you is doing the best they know how. Understand whenever someone hurts you that the person cannot do anything different toward you than what he or she understands to do. They aren’t personally trying to hurt you, but are responding from their own logic and frame of reference. If you try to not take it personally, it’ll free you to find the solutions needed to resolve the conflict.
Change yourself first
A change in you will lead in a change in him or her. When you change how you are approaching or responding to your partner, your partner will change how they are responding to you. Remember, it's not the event that creates the outcome, but your response to that event.
Have positive Expectations
There is a psychological law that states, human beings react and respond to the attitude and actions expressed by the other in like manner. The manner in which you approach or respond to your partner sets the ‘stage’ for how they’ll respond to you.
If you decide beforehand that a person will be difficult to deal with, you’ll approach him or her in a more or less hostile manner. When you do this, you literally set the stage for them to act upon the role you set for them. So put yourself in a positive frame of mind before communicating with your loved one.
Here are other points to consider.
If you take the time, now, to formulate your own ‘conflict-resolution strategy’ you’ll increase your chances in resolving your differences before they become full-fledge problems. If you need further help check out our resources that are designed to give you insight and help as you believe for the return of your mate.
1. Be willing to really listen to what your partner has to say.
2. Be willing to accept your partner for who he or she is.
3. Try to see the problem from their perspective.
4. Be willing to forgive and be forgiven
5. Be willing to look at what you are doing that is adding to the conflict and resolve it.
6. Be willing to get clarity on the situation and communicate without using emotionally charged words.
7. Change your focus from analyzing the problem to looking for the solution.
8. Most important learn to fight fair. Be willing to stop zinging, blaming and purposely trying to hurt your partner when in a heated discussion.
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